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This blog is about two brothers who faced the same decision during the Civil War and made opposing choices. In fact, they were not unique. Many families have ancestors from the same family who chose opposing sides in the Civil War, brothers fighting against brothers, cousins against cousins. What this blog is about is how two particular brothers eventually reconciled their divided loyalties. (This blog has mentioned the conflicted feelings about the War that Isaac Werner, who was from a Union state but did not serve, had.)
Recently, in a Missouri cemetery I noticed a large gray granite equestrian statue. I was curious, so I took several photographs, with plans to research its history. The story behind the monument was unexpected.
My research quickly revealed that family members fighting on opposite sides during the Civil War was far from unique. Various explanations for why such situations occurred may be found, among them social pressure from friends and family, love of place, influence of a spouse, economic concerns, coercion, even interpretations of the Bible used by people from both the North and the South. It would be impossible to list every reason nor is that what this blog is about. Instead it is a story of reconciliation and family.
Marker of David Dennis
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Their parents had seven children, these two sons and five daughters. According to a newspaper article published January 10, 1907 in The Owingsville Outlook, (Ky) their father, John Yokum Dennis, was a "strong Union man and was prominent locally in support of the North." Both parents and all seven children were born in Kentucky.
In the 1860 Federal Census, Austin was a boy of 16, still living at home, but David was 25, a farmhand living in the home of a different family--presumably the household of his employer. Two years later, both brothers enlisted, but on opposing sides.
David joined the 2nd Battalion, KY, Mounted Rifles, which concluded its organization in late fall of 1862 to fight for the Confederacy. Austin's Union military records show that he enlisted on August 10, 1862, joining Co. B, KY 10th Cavalry Regiment, and after serving slightly more than a year Austin was mustered out on September 17, 1863. The duration of David's service is less certain, but it is known that he was a Prisoner of War and that he entered the war as a Private and left with the same rank. The 2nd Battalion, Mounted Rifles which David joined was disbanded in early 1865, so the maximum time he could have served with them was 2 years and a few months, but the length of his imprisonment by the Union is unknown.
This blog is not intended, however, to be about the brutality of war but rather about the capacity to heal. According to the Owingsville Newspaper article, the family's Kentucky farm suffered during the War and they had been reduced to wretched poverty. The family decided to stay together and move to Missouri to make a fresh start. The importance of having made that move together seems to have been significant enough that it is recorded on the brothers' stones. In the 1870 census both Davis and Austin were living with their parents in Missouri, along with three of their sisters.
Both parents died between 1879-1880, as did their sister Emily. Their oldest sister Mary had died in 1875, leaving her husband to raise their six children. These brothers, once so divided by the Civil War, had within two years lost their Kentucky farm, their parents, and two of their five sisters. The important part of their story is how they and the rest of their family chose to face these hardships together.
The Owingsville newspaper story states that it was the deaths of their parents that made the brothers begin thinking about an appropriate family burial site. However, my research did not resolve the confusion about the burial places of their parents. As near as I could determine, the parents were first buried in the Napton, MO cemetery near their home; however, their eldest daughter Mary had been buried in Kentucky and it appears her parents were dis-intured to be buried with her rather than being re-interred in a crypt beneath the equestrian statue as originally planned. The following description is taken from the 1907 newspaper article: "The monument cost $3,000, [and] is a fine equestrian statue, made of gray granite, and represents a Confederate cavalryman. Upon it are suitable inscriptions to their parents, and here will also be written the epitaphs of the two Missourians, who having fought on opposite sides in the strife between the States, have, since Appomattox, worked side by side and will lie down to rest together."
Marker of Rachel Dennis, buried near her brothers
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Those years after the war reflect the healing family unity David and Austin achieved. David married very briefly in 1871, the marriage ending in divorce. By the 1880 Federal Census, David had become the head of the Dennis household, and it was quite a household! Living with David were not only his brother Austin but also two of his unmarried sisters, Rachel age 34 and Sarah Catherine age 30, but in addition were six of his oldest sister's children. Mary Dennis Igo had died in 1875, followed by her husband a few months after, and their children John 18, Charles 17, Laura 13, Catherine 10, Samuel 9, and Anna 5 were now in the Dennis household. Austin married in 1890 and had his own family, but in the 1900 Federal Census, David remained the head of a household that continued to include his sister Rachel and four of his Igo nieces and nephews--Charles 35, Laura 32, Samuel 29, and Annie 25. By 1910 only Rachel remained in David's home. Rachel's stone is the one pictured with her brother's stones above. David Dennis was 83 at the time of his death in 1918; his brother Austin followed him at the age of 77 in 1921, having met a tragic death.
The equestrian statue that marks their graves was completed at least by 1907 when the newspaper article appeared, and both brothers were living at that time. It is unclear why they chose a Confederate cavalryman atop the horse, as both brothers served in mounted units. A website featuring the monument includes this message: Parted in life only by individual thinking and opinions, the brothers are united through the ages by a common tomb."
Whatever may have been the brothers' intentions at the time the equestrian memorial was commissioned in the early 1900s, there is no inscription for their parents, where only the family surname appears. Nor is the story of their opposing allegiances during the Civil War inscribed on the memorial, although the newspaper article from 1907 would indicate that was their intention. However, their lives do tell the story of a nation and a family once divided but reconciled and reunited after the War.
Whatever may have been the brothers' intentions at the time the equestrian memorial was commissioned in the early 1900s, there is no inscription for their parents, where only the family surname appears. Nor is the story of their opposing allegiances during the Civil War inscribed on the memorial, although the newspaper article from 1907 would indicate that was their intention. However, their lives do tell the story of a nation and a family once divided but reconciled and reunited after the War.
I believe in the importance of remembering our history. That was the subject of the first blog I posted and the theme of many blogs since. Our history has lessons to teach, and those lessons should not be forgotten, whether they reflect good or bad decisions our leaders and 'we the people' made. Our public memorials must be the ones we aspire to emulate, and while the symbols of mistaken judgments should be preserved to document our imperfect past, the purpose for their display must never glorify the mistakes they record.
I believe that, once, the intention of the brothers had been known in their community, for a member of our family who was with us when we saw the statue said it represented a Union soldier on one side and a Confederate soldier on the other side. As we walked around the statue we observed that the oral history he remembered was in error. However, it seems likely that, once, the community had known the story of the brothers' reconciliation and the message the statue was intended to convey. The oral history about the memorial that our relative remembered aligns with the newspaper account of the monument's purpose. For some reason, the inscriptions the brothers planned were never recorded on the monument.
It is the story of the healing of this family, the coming together to build successful farms and care for family members without regard for past loyalties during the Civil War that is the truly heroic story of these two brothers. It should not be the part of their story that is forgotten.